I had a bit of a “hot bartender” phase when I first moved to New York City for an internship in 2014. I used to frequent, I remember not knowing how to approach the fact that some of them were actually sober themselves while I enjoyed staring at (and sometimes eventually hooking up with) the tatted, dapper dudes behind the bars that my friends and.
“i possibly could never date a man who did drink, ” n’t we remember saying to my roomie. “Imagine likely to supper and never having anyone to share a wine to you? ”
A bottle of wine with their date is now me in an ironic turn of events, that someone who won’t share. In 2017, i did so a Sober December (I’m sure, one month early), and after realizing that my entire life enhanced sans-booze, We gradually began drinking less and less—until I had been really sober.
Just a little over a year after saying bye to booze, I separated by having a boyfriend that is long-term had to navigate dating once again. Somehow, every guy we finished up starting up with additionally did drink that is n’t and I also discovered exactly how much better that struggled to obtain me personally. No apologizing for maybe maybe perhaps not being down seriously to separate that wine bottle, no worrying all about ugly texts that are drunk and dating some guy whom adored my sobriety ended up being a great deal much better than dating a man whom appeared to secretly want that i’d get drunk with him. (more…)